Forgiveness is a word we hear often whether it’s in church, in therapy or in spiritual circles. We know it is something we “should” do to find peace. But what does forgiveness really mean? And, is their a deeper, more radical way to understand it; one that not only frees the heart from resentment but transforms the very wound that caused it.
The Traditional View - Christian Forgiveness
In the Christian traditional, foregiveness is often seen as a moral act, a virtue we extend to those who have wronged us. We forgive because we are called to rise above anger, because it is what God asks of us and because it brings peace to our own Soul.
This form of forgiveness says “you hurt me but I choose to release the anger so I can be free.” It is noble, compassionate and healing in itself. It clears the emotional field of bitterness allowing love to return.
But even in this traditional model, there is often an unspoken separation - there is still a “me” who was wronged and a “you” who did the wrong. The pain is aknowledged and released, but the story of victim and perpretator remains intact.
The Shift to Radical Forgiveness
Radical forgiveness as taught by Colin Tipping invites us into a higher level of consciousness; one that sees every event, every wound, every betrayal as part of a divine curriculum for our soul’s evolution. In this model, nothing truly “wrong” ever happens. Instead, everything that unfolds - no matter how painful - is an opportunity for awakening. The moment we shift from “why did this happen to me?” to “what is this showing me?” we move from victimhood to empowerment.
Radical forgiveness is not about condoning hurtful behavior. It is however about seeing the deeper perfection within the experience as we recognize that every wound carrieers a message and every person who triggers it is a mirror revealing something we are ready to heal.
The Gifts Hidden in the Wound
When we look at life through this lens, we realize that every moment of suffering holds the seed of transformation. The people who hurt us are often the very souls who agreed to play difficult roles so that we could awaken to our own truth, This does not mean that we deny pain or do a spiritual bypass. It does mean that we feel it fully, honor it’s message and then harvest the wisdom it offers.
Let’s look at some examples:
Abandonment If we hold the belief that we were abandoned by a parent, a partner or life itself, we often carry the vibration of unworthiness. From the victim’s view, abandonment means “I was left. I am not enough”. But through the eyes of Radical forgiveness, we ask ‘what gift is being offered through this experience?” Perhaps the abandonment was not punishment but rather liberation - an initiation into self sovereignty and emotoinal independance.
The soul might have orchestrated that very experience to teach us how to stand in our own power and to learn that we are never truly alone. Once we embrace that, the energy of abandonment dissolves as we realize there was never any real separation to begin with.
Betrayal: Betrayal can be one of the deepest human pains. It shakes the foundation of trust and safety. Yet, when we aproach it through Radical forgiveness, we begin to see that betrayal often mirrors an old beleif system - one that we are ready to heal.
For example, if my husband had an affair while I was pregnant, it would be easy to stay trapped in the story “ he betrayed me - I am the victim”. However when taking a deeper look, I might see that I have a long carried beleief that “men can’t be trusted “ or “all men evertually cheat” Perhaps that beleif took root in childhood when I perceived that my father left or turned his attention elsewhere, oven if he never actually did.
So, my current experience mirrors that unhealed belief, giving me a chance to see it clearly and release it once and for all. When I heal that energetic would coming from my deeply engrained belief system, I no longer attract experiences that validate it. The betrayal then becomes a teacher rather than a tragedy. In this light, there is nothing to forgive - only something to forgive and to thank
Healing the Body and the Belief
Every moment of unforgiveness holds energy - an energetic imprint of contraction stored in the body. When we carry resentment, judgement or blame, the vibration of that wound lingers in our cells, in our nervious system and in our energy field.
Radical forgiveness liberates that energy. When we choose to see the perfection behind the pain, the energetic charge dissolves. The belief that once held us hostage, releases it’s grip and the body naturally sihifts into coherence. Healing then becomes not about “letting go” of someone but about integrating the part of ourselves that was still holding on to the story.
The Freedom Beyond Forgiveness
True forgiveness is not something we do - it is something that arises naturally when we see through the illusion of separation. From this perspective, there is no offender, no victim, no debt. There is only consciosness expanding through experience. When we reach that space, gratitude replaces resentment. We no longer need to forgive because we undersand that everything happens for us, not to us. Every wound was an invitation to remember who we truly are - whole, complete, loved and always connected to source.
Radical forgiveness brings us home to our divine neutrality - the state of unconditional love that sees all experience as sacred. In closing, forgiveness in it’s highest form is graditude. It is the moment we look back at what once broke us and whisper “thank you for shoiwng me what I needed to heal”.
When we see through the eyes of Radical forgiveness, the heart expands, the body lightens and we step into freedom. We are no longer defined by the story of our pain but transformed by the wisdom it revealed.
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Let’s Work Together
If you are ready to move beyond old emotional patterns and begin living from a place of deeper wholeness, I invite you to explore this work with me. Together, we will uncover hidden blocks, release what no longer serves and restore the harmony that is your natural state of being. I invite you to a 30 minute free discovery call to see if we are a fit to work together for a transformatoinal journey. Drop me an email at lisa@divinavida.co
