Grief is not an emotion – it is a sacred journey, a teacher and a mirror that reveals the depth of our humanity. It takes us into tender spaces where time slows, asking us to sit with what has been lost and what has been transformed. In its process, grief carries lessons of presence, patience and surrender. It teaches us that healing is not about rushing to “get over it” but about allowing ourselves to walk through it with awareness and compassion. When we honor grief as sacred time, we discover that is holds not only sorrow but also wisdom, resilience and the possibility of renewal.
One of the most challenging places on this path is anger. As Elisabeth-Kubler Ross observed in her work on the states of grief, anger often becomes the stopping point because we are taught to fear it, repress it or turn it against ourselves or others. Little girls are told it isn’t “pretty” to be angry; little boys are warned not to be “bullies”. Yet anger is a natural and necessary part of grief – a sign that love has been disrupted and that something sacred within us demands expression. The key is not to deny or bypass it but to move through it consciously, allowing it to be constructive rather than destructive. When anger is met with awareness, it becomes a doorway rather than a barrier.
On the other side of that doorway is profound acceptance, forgiveness and empowerment. Moving through grief with grace and consciousness reveals an inner strength we may not have known we possessed. What begins as pain becomes a passageway into deeper compassion for ourselves and others who walk this universal path of loss. In facing grief fully, we allow every stage of the process its voice, including anger and by doing so, we do not become diminished. We become expanded, empowered and more whole. Grief then is not the end of love but its alchemy, shaping us into beings who can hold both loss and light with open hearts.
Se amor – be love!
